Clinical Sexology + Relationship Therapy +Counselling

I am a registered Clinical Sexologist, Relationship Therapist and Counsellor completing my studies with the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology (CICS) in London. Prior to taking on clients, I request that they please book in for a Pre-therapy consultation session to discuss your needs.

Issues that I can help with as a Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Therapist include:

accessing and elevating sexual pleasure in solo/ partnered sex
consensual non- monogamy
repairing relationship ruptures
better intimacy, connection & communication in relationships
relationship problems couples/ polycules
erection problems
inability to orgasm
desire discrepancy (low or high libido)
painful sex (vulva, vagina, anus)
premature/ early ejaculation
problematic porn use
sex, gender, erotic & relationship identity concerns
sexual compulsions
specific sexual interests (BDSM, kinks & fetishes)
sex education- understanding anatomy, arousal & how to access pleasure
disability and sex (life long and acquired)
attending to trauma and shame
changes in the body (pregnancy, menopause, aging and sexual pleasure).
Shame therapy
Trauma Therapy

I am a member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) which is the largest accrediting body of Sex & Relationship Therapists in the UK. I also am a member with the Society of Australian Sexologists (SAS) I honour all gender, sexual orientations, and relationship diversities (GSERD). I am a queer, kink-knowledgeable therapist and I take a sex positive approach to compulsive sexual behaviours and pornography use. This is a safe space for you.

Sexologists and Relationship Therapists are a particularly specialist and small group of Psychotherapists.

I am pluralistic in my approach, meaning that I draw on many different tools to meet the needs of the person/ people whom I am working with. I use the Bio/ Psycho/ Social model in approaching each individual’s problem to gain a comprehensive understanding of needs.

Lisa running an online yoga therapy session

As a Clinical Sexologist, Relationship Therapist, Counsellor and Yoga Therapist I have a unique specialist skillset which is wonderful in improving a multitude of sexual health problems.

Bookings and Sessions

Working globally online allows for many of my clients to access sessions conveniently in a space where they feel safe.

Bookings can be made on the booking and payment page to select dates and times of your choosing.

Sessions are for 60 minutes (90 minute sessions can be arranged upon request).

Business Hours are generally as follows:

London time

08:00- 15:00 Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday

12:00- 18:00 Wednesday

If you are seeking therapy outside of of these hours, please discuss your needs with and I will advise if this is possible.

Shift workers and FIFO workers are welcome as you can book in for your sessions at your convenience, there is flexibility in scheduling for many who have unconventional work schedules.

An example of how Yoga Therapy as a modality (examples seen are of Partner Yoga) can be used as a tool for clients to build skills within their relationship for: building intimacy, mindful partnered touch, better communication of expressing boundaries, learning to feel safe, co-regulation, trust building. Partner Yoga is a tantric practice. To view a guided practice using Yoga for self- regulation and co-regulation Click Here

Lisa qualified as a Clinical Sexologist and Relationship Therapist with CICS (Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology) based in England, and whole heartedly recommends them as a training institution. CICS offers low cost therapy with their CICS students who are on placement. If you are seeking low cost therapy please enquire at their office: Sex Therapy Herts.

FAQ

Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy can be properly used to indicate long-term treatment where you deal with psychological issues that have built up over a long time. You’ll tackle what is affecting you now by exploring your past, how experiences, patterns of thinking and behaviour affect the way your interaction with the world. You’ll try to find the root cause of issues, rather than trying to manage them. Sometimes you will focus on yourself a lot, looking at questions of identity and belief.

Counselling

Counselling on the other hand is most often used to refer to time-limited treatment focused on specific issues and behavioural patterns. You’ll usually agree a set number of planned sessions at the outset of your therapy, with one or more set goals. Because there is a limit to the time, counselling will often be quite structured with sessions planned in advance.

When in counselling you might look at problem solving or learning techniques to cope with or avoid problem areas. Think of it as an approach that encourages the change of behaviour, looking at what is happening to you right now. For example, trying to tackle addiction or grief.

Key Differences

Counselling is likely to be action and behaviour oriented.
Counselling is likely to be time limited.
Counselling is likely to focus on current rather than past issues.
Psychotherapy tends to go on longer than a counselling programme.
Psychotherapy is likely to be more in-depth than counselling.
Psychotherapy can deal with problems and disorders that have developed over a long time.
Psychotherapy is likely to explore the past as well as the present.
Psychotherapy is more likely to explore root causes of issues rather than just behavioural patterns.

You can have a session with me using your computer or other device such as a tablet or smartphone. New counselling clients are to have a Pre-therapy consultation. Book here.

When you send me your email address, I send you back a link which is an invite using Microsoft Teams. This is a secure and private platform that we can use to have sessions on. YOU DO NOT NEED TO INSTALL ANY NEW SOFTWARE ON YOUR PC. If you are using a mobile device you will need to install Microsoft Teams from your app store which is free. When you accept the invitation, a time slot is created in your digital calendar. Just before our scheduled session, you will be sent a reminder email. When it is time, you then open the link either in your email reminder or in the calendar reminder and it will take you to the meeting. You will be prompted to accept the app terms and conditions if it is your first time using Microsoft Teams. Once you have accepted, press “Join”. Your device will ask you for permission to use your camera and microphone. Please ensure that you grant these permissions and that your microphone and camera is set to “on” so that we can see and hear each other.

Here is a link to a tutorial.

Cancelling a booking, late appointments and rescheduling

Please give me 48 hours’ notice if you cannot make a scheduled appointment. I reserve the right to charge a cancellation fee if you fail to show up, or if you give me less than 48 hours’ notice. Please see Cancellation Policy.

If you arrive late, I will not be able to extend the session as other clients are likely to be following you. If you decide to leave early, I will still charge the fee for a full session unless previously arranged. I keep the online Teams room open for the duration of the session.

You may reschedule your appointment (more than 48 hours’ notice) via the link which is listed on your appointment email.

Applying for refunds

If you request a refund (outside of the 48 hour cancellation window), and you would rather have a refund instead of rescheduling. Please get in contact with lisa@thinkingfeelingmoving.com as soon as possible, your request will need to be in writing. Please state what the service was, and the date you are wanting the refund for. I may enquire as to why you are seeking the refund so that we may improve our services. I will make every effort to process your payment as quickly as possible. Your financial institution can take up to 20 days for the refund to reflect in your bank account/ card.

Therapy should be kept to therapy appointments. You can email me if you have a query which is unable to wait for our scheduled session. As I am often in session with clients, please allow until the end of (my) working day for me to reply to your email. You have the availability to change your appointment time if it is more than 24 hours away via the link on your email with details of the booking, or you can book in for an earlier time if there is availability.

Should you need support between sessions, please contact your GP or one of these organisations for help.

UK

Samaritans

24 -hour Helpline: 116 123 www.samaritans.org National organisation offering support to those in distress who feel suicidal or despairing and need someone to talk to.

SANE

SANE is a leading UK mental health charity working to improve quality of life for anyone affected by mental illness. SANEline 0300 304 7000 6pm-11pm daily. www.sane.org.uk

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